Emotional Resilience Is a Trait You Can Develop

Emotional Resilience Is a Trait You Can Develop Theories Personality Psychology Print Why Emotional Resilience Is a Trait You Can Develop By Elizabeth Scott, MS twitter Elizabeth Scott, MS, is a wellness coach specializing in stress management and quality of life, and the author of 8 Keys to Stress Management. Learn about our editorial policy Elizabeth Scott, MS Updated on October 06, 2019 Ascent Xmedia/Taxi/Getty Images More in Theories Personality Psychology Myers-Briggs Type Indicator Behavioral Psychology Cognitive Psychology Developmental Psychology Social Psychology Biological Psychology Psychosocial Psychology Those with a higher degree of emotional resilience?? can handle the stresses that come with daily life more effectively and calmly. They are also able to manage crises more easily. Fortunately, emotional resilience?? is a trait that can be developed. In fact, its a trait that is worth developing for many reasons, not the least of which is that it can transform your life and your experience of stress. What Is Emotional Resilience? Emotional resilience refers to one’s ability to adapt to stressful situations or crises. More resilient people are able to roll with the punches and adapt to adversity without lasting difficulties; less resilient people have a harder time with stress and life changes, both major and minor. Research shows that those who deal with minor stresses more easily also can manage major crises with greater ease. So, resilience has its benefits for daily life as well as for the rare major catastrophe. What Influences Emotional Resilience? Emotional and physical resilience?? is, to a degree, something youre born with. Some people, by nature, are less upset by changes and surprises?? â€" this can be observed in infancy and tends to be stable throughout one’s lifetime. Emotional resilience is also related to some factors that arent under your control, such as age, gender, and exposure to trauma. However, resilience can be developed with little effort. If you know what to do, you can become more resilient, even if you are naturally more sensitive to life’s difficulties. What Are Traits of Emotional Resilience? Resilience is not a quality that you either do or do not possess; there are varying degrees of how well a person can handle stress. Still, there are specific characteristics that resilient people tend to share. Some of the main characteristics are: Emotional Awareness:  People with emotional awareness?? understand what they’re feeling and why.  They also understand the feelings of others better because they are more in touch with their own inner life.Perseverance: Whether they’re working toward outward goals or on inner coping strategies, they’re action-oriented â€" they trust in the process and don’t give up.Internal Locus of Control:?? They believe that they, rather than outside forces, are in control of their own lives.  This trait is associated with less stress because people with an internal locus of control and a realistic view of the world can be more proactive in dealing with stressors in their lives, more solution-oriented, and feel a greater sense of control, which brings less stress.Optimism:?? They see the positives in most situations and believe in their strength.  This can shift how they handle problems from a victim mentality to an empowered one, and more choices open up.Support: While they tend to be str ong individuals, they know the value of social support and can surround themselves with supportive friends and family.Sense of Humor: People strong in emotional resilience can laugh at life’s difficulties.  This can be a tremendous asset, as it shifts ones perspective from seeing things as a threat to seeing them as a challenge, and this alters how the body reacts to stress. They also get a good laugh more often, and this brings benefits as well.Perspective: Resilient people can learn from their mistakes (rather than deny them), see obstacles as challenges, and allow adversity to make them stronger. They can also find meaning in life’s challenges rather than seeing themselves as victims.?Spirituality:?? Being connected to your spiritual side has been linked with stronger emotional resilience, especially if youre internally connected and not just going through the motions of attending services. (This doesnt mean that people who arent spiritual cant be resilient, only that this co nnection has been found.) How to Become More Resilient As mentioned, emotional resilience can be developed.?? And because stress and change are a part of life, there are always opportunities to practice resilienceâ€"the payoffs are significant. All it takes is an interest and commitment to the process and a little information on how to develop and strengthen traits of resilience. 10 Ways to Improve Your Resilience